“When I said, ‘This far you may come and no farther;
here is where your proud waves halt’?” Job 38:11
We live in a culture of very few boundaries, where the lines become fuzzy due to the high intensity of various expectations upon our lives. Our phones with WhatsApp, emails, Instagram and other social media platforms are expected to be on twenty-four hours a day, our children’s schools expect a full day commitment from your children and you as the parents, our work expects you to put your entirety into the days slog and take on everything, your church expects you to commit more to Life Group, Sunday services, outreach, youth, children’s church, worship, door duty and even tea and coffee ministry, and we know that we are also expected to make priority in our days to fit in our spouse, friends, family, an active lifestyle, time to unwind, Bible reading and prayer.
The necessity of making boundaries is clear when we sit back and take a look at our over-saturated-with-expectation-filled-lives.
In make boundaries let these two truths give you strength:
- Making boundaries is not bad. It is a very good practice.
Making boundaries is not selfish, in fact, it could be the most selfless act – for example, saying no to a meeting in the afternoon could mean spending more time with your family. Making boundaries does not make you an undesirable worker, in fact, it could make you the best kind of work – for example, saying no to taking on a project could mean that you really get to focus in and finish the current project.
- God himself makes and keeps to his boundaries.
God made boundaries. In his response to Jōb God says, ““Who shut up the sea behind doors when it burst forth from the womb, when I made the clouds its garment and wrapped it in thick darkness, when I fixed limits for it and set its doors and bars in place, when I said, ‘This far you may come and no farther; here is where your proud waves halt’?” (Jōb 38:8-11). God made boundaries for his creation. God also makes boundaries for us in answering our prayers, for sometimes he may not answer our prayers or he answers them in a way that we did not expect, it is because he has laid out who he is and what he wants and lives according to these boundaries.
Today, therefore, decide on where your boundaries lie for making boundaries is good and as a follower of God, we must keep to his example. So that you can live as the best child of God that you can be. The best spouse that you can be. The best parent that you can be. The best worker that you can be. The best you can be.
Lord Jesus, please give me wisdom and strength to make life-giving boundaries in my life so that I can be the best child of you Father, the best spouse, the best parent, the best I can be. Amen
Boundaries Dr Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend 1992 Zondervan
Robert Oscroft Swan
Young Adult Pastor of Summerstrand United Church
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