Posted by Merissa Vosloo

Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me.

“Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.” Song of Songs 2:15

A good friend of mine back in Cape Town recalls his first morning of being a fresh new missionary to Cape Town. He was awoken by the window shaking call of the Hadeda. I have a few Hadedas that live in a big tree outside my kitchen window, they are huge birds when I am at home. But when I leave home and I see them out on the N2 or on the plains in Kruger National Park, they seem small. I even thought one was a dove.

Things can seem smaller when you leave home.

Like problems within the marriage. God loves marriage, in fact, he designed it. He has given humanity marriage to resemble who God is, how Jesus loves the church and to grow his Kingdom. Naturally then Satan only shows up after marriage in Genesis 3. Marriage, therefore, needs consistent and daily work for problems do arise. Sometimes this means going away. Fill out the leave forms.

This is what happened in Song of Songs. The book that gives us a clear picture of what biblical marriage is all about. Read this great portion of Scripture, let it soak into your soul whether you are preparing for marriage or are married.

Song of Songs 2:8-15

8 Listen! My beloved!
Look! Here he comes,
leaping across the mountains,
bounding over the hills.
9 My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
Look! There he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows,
peering through the lattice.
10 My beloved spoke and said to me,
“Arise, my darling,
my beautiful one, come with me.
11 See! The winter is past;
the rains are over and gone.
12 Flowers appear on the earth;
the season of singing has come,
the cooing of doves
is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree forms its early fruit;
the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.
Arise, come, my darling;
my beautiful one, come with me.”


14 My dove in the clefts of the rock,
in the hiding places on the mountainside,
show me your face,
let me hear your voice;
for your voice is sweet,
and your face is lovely.
15 Catch for us the foxes,
the little foxes
that ruin the vineyards,
our vineyards that are in bloom.

Why do these two need to go away? So that they can catch the foxes (the problems) that are ruining their vineyard (their marriage). This all happens when they leave the house, for we can gain a better grasp of reality – we can see our foxes that are ruining our vineyard. And we can have the space to pray, and spend time reconciling to our spouses and to God without the pushes and pulls of the pressures of being at home.

Questions to consider as you read Song of Songs 2:8-15

  • When last did you go away with your spouse?
  • What words does the wife use to describe her husband?
  • What words does the husband use to describe his wife?
  • How does this compare to your marriage?
  • How is your marriage going?

Prayer: Father, may you strengthen our marriages. We lift up our spouses, we lift up ourselves. May our marriages be a shining light in proclaiming your gospel. Amen